Men are weak! This is a bold
statement that some will swear by. Others will disagree and argue vehemently
against it. However, I think both sexes can be weak, but in different ways. I think men respond more to visual stimuli and, in an intense and
consistent bombardment with the appropriate visual stimuli, their defenses can
be broken down easily. Women on the other hand respond better to auditory
stimuli and the route to breaking their defenses is by the words you express to
them.
Having said the above, the man still
needs to be well presented physically to attract the woman (women are attracted
to well dressed men with sense of style). The basics should be there: a nice,
clean and well presented appearance is fundamental. However, it is more
critical for men for their women to be pleasing physically and, may be, that is all they need to attract men. For women, they are
sophisticated than that and you need to engage with their thought through your
words and emotions.
That is not to say that you dress
well as woman and you get the guy you have been eying for the last few months.
The visual stimuli include the way you carry that well dressed body. That can
make a significant difference. Let me tell you the experience of the Friend
whose experience started this blog.
According to my friend, let’s
called him Charlie, there was this girl who we will call Fiona in his office
who works at the Finance Dept as Administrator. Charlie is an IT Specialist
who will usually be called to the Finance Team to fix problems. He had not
taken any special interest in Fiona and their work paths had not really
crossed. However, Charlie had a much cordial relationship with some of the
other guys in the finance team. During one lunch hour, a discussion on
girlfriends ensued between them and Charlie. In this conversation, he made it
clear he was in serious relationship and that he was committed.
Apparently, once Fiona heard that
he said he was committed to his relationship, she hinted that guys are only
committed when it is convenient for them. The guys thought he was serious and said
so to Fiona. However, to Charlie, it seems she has being targeting him ever
since then. Initially he decided not mind her, but when I spoke to him, I think
the decision had been taken that he was going to take her up on the offer. Let
me tell you how she had gone about it.
Fiona had slightly changed her
dressing! You see some girls think, it is about wearing revealing dress.
Actually, this is wrong. Men want what they cannot have. Just wearing something
very stylish that covers you up in the right places, but also gives an
indication of what could be underneath the dress is all that you need. Yes, you
should not cover up like a nun, but a prostitute is a put-off as well. Fiona began
wearing stylish dresses that covered her up, but showed her amazing shape. Charlie told me about one day when he had a
call to fix a printer attached to Fiona’s PC only to find her in a pink and
white tube dress covered on top with a black jacket. Her inches high heels
fully complimented the dress. He remembered: “her dress was up to her knee, but
the slit at back still gave an indication of the smooth thigh underneath. And whilst
her breasts were covered, his brain had completed the [missing] picture”. Her
smile was inviting and movement elegant! I don’t think he could ever get that
picture out of his mind.
I think Fiona is very smart. She
knows that men want to be heroes especially when they see a pretty woman.
Charlie only found that there is the USB wire missing, but it still took him
more that 15 minutes because he was enjoying the time spent talking to her
about the problem. He found himself explaining why the problem occurred in the
first place and what to do if it occurred again. This has been the standard
they have been trained to do their work but honestly, he could remember any
other incident where he has followed the standard procedure.
Now that she had his attention,
she would smile and say hello to him whenever they met in the corridors or for
lunch. As much as she could, we think, she staged those meeting. However, she
always looked natural, elegant, sexy and in control. She made sure Charlie felt
like superstar by thanking him profusely for fixing her printer. She also told
him how poor she was at IT. She was just feeding his ego; one thing that men
can’t do without. Soon she got Charlie to start thinking about her and he was
making more efforts to pass by the finance team.
Within three weeks, they had
spoken at the water fountain about her PC at home, his tennis playing
Saturdays, her movies collection and others. Eventually, she found out that he
lives in Sakumono. She let him know that she was going to be at the Beach on
Sunday if he wanted to meet. This is the point she called me, and I don’t think
he was about to refuse that!
