He has being single
for a while! Since leaving his ex, he has decided to spend time by himself and to
seek spiritual growth. Most us who know him very well laughed because it was
not like him to waste time moving from one woman to the next. Hardly did he
wait for the end of one relationship before moving to the next. However, this
felt different: he seemed more committed in this one although it was also the one
that broke his heart, he had the best memories.
It is said that
what goes around comes around. In Kofi’s case, this saying has had a literal fulfillment.
He has broken several hearts and never shown even a single care in the world
for those women. There were times when I questioned the appropriateness of my
loyalty to him. But he was my friend and I never knew any of them until he
introduced them.
Very often, he
called the shots; he determined the pace of the relationship and the level of
intimacy. However, with this one, he was different. He will make sure they
spent more time together and they did things generally as a couple will do. Yet, she
left him and for another one of our friends!
Let me tell you
about Fosua. I thought of her as intelligent, smart and reasonably pretty girl.
She was smitten with Kofi and would do everything to be with him. Whilst he
liked her attention, he had his eyes on others as well. He and some of the friends
will go out and literally prey on woman, and as young men, I think there was
little respect for these girls they convinced to be with them.
Kofi convinced Fosua’s
roommate to date his best friend and they both will go and stay at their
apartments for weeks on end even at the detriment of the girls’ lectures. Whilst
they were there, the girls will cook and look after them out of their own means.
At some these stays, they will come across as if they did not have other girls;
the relationships looked magical. They will hold tight their girls under the
arms as they sit in the living room watching TV with the fire on at the Fire Place
during the cozy autumn months. To the girls, they had found their lifelong
partners whilst the men were only thinking only as far as they are in the house.
However, as they
say, no deed under the son can be buried forever! One day Kofi walked into a
party with his new chic and there at the gift table was Fosua staring back at
him. She walked up to him and said hi.
There wasn’t much to say and he knew he had blown it. She asked to talk
to him outside and he returned about 20 minutes later, but not with Fosua. She
never picked his call and that was that.
He already had
Diane and he was smitten with her. This time, it was he who was smitten and it
showed. His friends new the disaster could strike because he was changing too
much too quickly for a woman he knew very little about. But she was mixed race
with nice skin tone, body and she knew how to get the attention of men to make
him jealous.
Within a few weeks
of their being together, it became obvious that she was not in the relationship
for the long-term. She wanted fun. Kofi’s jealousy was taking the fun out of
the relationship for her. She confided in Kofi’s best friend that she would rather
be with a guy who will have an open relationship and not Kofi’s jealous streaks.
Within the next
three weeks, Kofi’s best friend slept with her three times, two other guys of
the bunch had slept with her and, at some point, Kofi’s best friend and one of the
guys had been with her, all together at the same time.
Of course, Kofi did
not know this. He was just blissfully enjoying time with his always cheating
girlfriend and, the worse part, having unprotected sex after a second negative
HIV screening by both of them. But, this screening was useless as she continued
to sleep around, some with condoms and others without.
The real juicy part
is how Kofi found out that she has been cheating on him. The guys were one day
having conversation about tattoos and what they would have on their bodies if
they ever wanted to get one. They agreed that they will never write a lover’s
name. An error was made by Dimps, one of the guys who had slept with Diane when
he mentioned that the stool on Diane’s butt cheek is something he can accept on
a girl because it refers to her as a princess.
As soon as that was
said the room went quiet! Kofi asked Dimps how he got to know about the tattoo
which he, Kofi, suggested for her. Dimps try to explain that either Kofi or
Diane herself informed the group although he is not sure. This did not wash with
Kofi who was already getting suspicious and there was a verbal altercation
between the two. The other guys were all quiet. They all knew who else had
slept with her and Kofi was bound to find out. That evening he went to Diane
and, as usual of her, she did not lie.
She told him that
she did not want an exclusive relation and that she wanted to continue to sleep
with those guys as well as be with him. Kofi was disgusted and left her that
evening never to return. The worst part was the fact that his best friend was
involved. They tried to rebuild their friendship, but it was never like before.
Kofi do not talk to
two of the guys; he left the apartment that he shared with the guys and Diane
still visited them regularly.
It has being 24
months now. The guys no longer live at the apartment and Diane is out of the picture
(I think, but probably still messing some friendships). He has rebuilt his life
and, apart from me, he has found new friends.
However, he still
talks about Diane with fondness. I know she wasn’t ready, but had she been,
their relationship would have been great. Would he be ready to date again soon?
Sometimes I feel he is a new man!
